“Must” vs. “Want”: Anatomy of Self-Sabotage (with Tsvetomira Nenkova)
We begin 2026 with an honest topic: why do we set goals that exhaust us instead of nourishing us, and why do we give up on our goals so quickly, feeling personally disappointed?
In this episode, Harry and psychotherapist Tsvetomira Nenkova – Tsveti dive boldly into the zone between “must” and “want” – that grey area where our true motivation is born… or our biggest blockages.
We talk about:
- why the word “failure” is so powerful and inapplicable in goal setting;
- how micro-motivation overcomes self-sabotage and develops discipline;
- what it really means to be good to ourselves — and why it looks different for everyone;
- why intuition is not magic, but a well-trained “inner compass” that most of us ignore.
In this episode, we explore the relationship between expectations, desire, flexibility, and personal honesty.
As promised in the episode you will find more information about the therapeutic group for adults over 21 that Tsveti is preparing for 2026 here.
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