With the beginning of the new year our social media gets flooded with aspirational posts about the bright future and ambitious new years’ resolutions. Everyone promises to be more successful, more organised, to adopt a healthier lifestyle and generally to leave their old self in the past and become perfect. Posts like these can feel inspiring and bring us to set goals for ourselves, but can also evoke anxiety, envy and a feeling of being behind others. Here are a few suggestions for alternative new year’s resolutions that can actually help us have a good year with less stress:
1. Gratitude list
Make an actual list of all the things that help you enjoy life – the people close to you, hobbies, interests, events. Don’t forget to add your health and your body – even if you are not in the best shape, it is your body that allows you to do all the things that are important and enjoyable, like reading this post.
2. Good old habits
During the short days of winter and especially during the holidays, we tend to slack on some of our good habits – for example our sleep schedule, cooking or regular meetings with friends. Think about the habits and routines that were good for you, but have maybe been pushed aside and try to incorporate them in you life again.
3. Leave things behind
When talking about resolutions, it is usually about adding activities to our lives, but there is only so much one can do in a day or a week. Take a look at your everyday life and see if there are activities, relationships or expectations of yourself that are weighing you down without adding much value to your life. Remember that often saying NO to others means saying YES to yourself.
4. Improve your self talk
You are the most important person in your life. You spend the most amount of time with your own thoughts, so the way you talk to yourself shapes your reality. Try to define how you want your self talk to be throughout 2023. And remember, if being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now. And you know that because you would never be mean or hurtful to your friends. So maybe in 2023 try being:
with yourself as well.
5. Chose a theme or quote for the year
Instead of choosing many goals that overwhelm you, try choosing a theme for the year or a quote to decide what vibes you want to bring to your life this year. Here are some suggestions
- Besides love, balance is the most important thing.
- A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
- When you look in the mirror, smile at your own kindness.